A selection of insightful articles from multiple sources

of interest

How to Give Your Therapist Feedback

We often think of psychotherapists as “all-knowing,” which can make patients feel that complaining about the therapy or the therapist is not allowed. more

Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and the Preventable Tragedies of Suicide

The New Yorker

I’m a fan of Andrew Solomon for his humanity, including his understanding of depression - you may already know his award winning books, Noonday Demon, a memoir, and Far From the Tree. His writing is outstanding and his advocacy far reaching. Here’s his thoughtful take on the increase of suicide:     more

What Your Therapist Is Really Thinking

Paul Hokemeyer

Yes, therapists sometimes get bored; excerpts from an interview with psychotherapist.     more


To Stop Procrastinating, Start by Understanding the Emotions Involved

 Shirley S. Wang

Time management goes only so far; the emotional reasons for delay must also be addressed

Chronic procrastination is an emotional strategy for dealing with stress, researchers say, and it can lead to difficulties in relationships, jobs, finances and health.    more


Former Surgeon General says There’s a ‘Loneliness Epidemic’ and Work is Partly to Blame

 Jena McGregor 10/4/2017

Former U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek H. Murthy says he thinks “of loneliness as an epidemic because it affects a great number of people in our country but also because one person’s loneliness can have an impact on another person.

In a new cover story in the Harvard Business Review, Murthy treats loneliness like a public health crisis, and the workplace as one of the primary places where it can get better — or worse.  more


Relationship Problems? Try Getting More Sleep

Tara Parker-Pope

Marital spats were universal among the couples taking part in an Ohio State University study exploring marital interactions. How the couples handled conflict was not. What made the difference? The hostile couples were most likely to be those who weren’t getting much sleep.  more


Busy Is a Sickness

Scott Dannemiller

lifecycle

After the Children Have Grown

Madeline Levine

I’ve lost my sense of being needed and loved beyond reason by three breathtaking, energetic, embryonic beings. more


Sibling Effect: Mom Has a Favorite and Birth Order Counts

Susan Donaldson James

A scientific — and personal — look at the last unexplored frontier of family relationships. more


Walking Home

Erika Swyler

I wore my mother's shoes to feel as if she was walking with me, helping me through those first days of her absence. more


No Time to Think

Kate Murphy

ONE of the biggest complaints in modern society is being overscheduled, overcommitted and overextended. Ask people at a social gathering how they are and the stock answer is “super busy,” “crazy busy” or “insanely busy.” Nobody is just “fine” anymore.   more






Growing Up With a Disabled Sibling

Rachel Adams


Six Steps to Curb Materialism in Your Kids

Ron Lieber

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Mediation

3 Questions to Answer Before Deciding to End Your Marriage

Dr. Joy Dryer, Ph.D.

A 1-2-3 framework to help guide you in your own, personal decision process. more


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couples

In Defense of Adulterers

review from the New Yorker
Zoe Heller

We know that humans are bad at being faithful, but exactly how bad is hard to tell. Esther Perel’s new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity argues for a more compassionate understanding of our unruly desires.     more


Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits

Emily Esfahani Smith

Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.  more


Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Alain de Botton,  New York Times

It's one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person. more


Couples That Talk About Sex Have Better Sex

 Kyle Benson, The Gottman Institute

The most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about a healthy sex life. more


Helping Older Couples Achieve "Good Enough" Sex

Michael Metz

Teaching the Concept of Sexual Teamwork   more


How to Have a Better Relationship

Tara Parker-Pope

Nobody knows what really goes on between any couple, but decades of scientific research into love, sex and relationships have taught us that a number of behaviors can predict when a couple is on solid ground or headed for troubled waters. more


How Internet Porn Is Changing How Men and Women Are Having Sex

 Philip Perry


Stop Bickering. It's Killing Your Relationship

Esther Perel


What Couples Want to Know But Are Too Shy to Ask

Elizabeth Bernstein